How to win her back after breaking her heart

Whether the other party is willing to reconcile with you has little to do with what you say or do, but depends on what kind of emotions and feelings you convey to the other party.

Good emotions and feelings will bring good emotional relationships, and bad emotions and feelings will bring bad emotional relationships.

If emotions and feelings are there, the relationship will naturally come. If emotions and feelings are not there, no matter how much you try, it will be useless.

For example, the girl below found us after failing to find other recovery agencies. At that time, the boy was full of defensiveness, hesitant, and almost never replied to messages. After a text message guidance from the teacher, the relationship was instantly broken.

But because the girl’s inner lack and non-cooperation kept grabbing the ex, the progress was still not smooth enough. So the teachers gave the girl “accompanying” guidance and efficient healing, and the girl’s heart was greatly improved. From pessimism and fear to a high-energy state of “love full of self-hanging” every day, and there have been huge changes in career, family affection, and emotions.

In one meeting, she reconciled with her ex instantly, returned to the sweet state of two people in love, and the relationship automatically reconciled. This verifies an unchanging truth in emotional relationships: when the feelings are in place, the relationship is also there.

So how do you convey good emotions and feelings to the other person?

Just like many people have made a lot of efforts to win back their exes, but the other party is still indifferent, and some relationships have even deteriorated.

So what is the problem? Why are the exes so determined?

In fact, we really try our best to win back the ex, work hard, pay, lower our posture, and improve ourselves externally. Of course, these efforts are not in vain and there will be some gains. However, I want to tell you that the truth is that winning back has nothing to do with effort and pay, but only depends on your heart.

Just like building a building, if the foundation is unstable, even if the house materials and appearance are beautiful, they are vulnerable.

Think about it, from the breakup to now, even in love, your heart is more or less anxious, lacking (lack of love, lack of security), unable to control emotions, passive, unable to communicate effectively, and unable to manage emotions (the other party originally loved me very much, why is he so heartless now), etc.

On the surface, you have made a lot of efforts to restore the relationship, but your heart has not changed.

It is just like the example just now. The building is beautifully built, but the foundation is unstable, or even a mess.

Then when you establish contact with your ex, it is like inviting him/her to visit the house you built, but it collapses before he/she enters.

That is, all your true feelings and emotions will be exposed. In this case, how can you bring good emotions and feelings to the other party? (Here we have to admit that everyone likes good emotions and feelings) How to restore the ex?

So what I want to tell you is the change in your heart. You need to heal your heart and lay a good foundation. Only when the foundation is laid can you build the house you really want.

Only when you have truly changed from the heart, you can bring good emotions and feelings to the other party when you communicate with him/her, and your emotional relationship can present what you want.

Otherwise, no matter how many routines and techniques you have, they are only temporary. When you encounter the same emotional problems, you will repeat the same mistakes.

Therefore, recovery should start from the “heart”. As long as your heart changes, all the external and results will change accordingly.

If you have any problems in your relationship