Eight tips for relationship newbies

Often see netizens say, “These truths, if I was twenty years old or earlier to know it is good, so as not to lose him, will not be so stubborn, will not be so dead face”.

　　When we were young, we thought that our stubborn persistence, inexplicable reserve, exaggerated behavior, desperate to leave are all right, are worthy of their own behavior, but, really wait until we grow older, more experience, rich feelings, broadened horizons, we will understand, may be the greatest achievement of youth, is to be able to blatantly make mistakes.

　　A college roommate, recently said in the group: she and her first boyfriend and good, after six years, met again, the two people defiantly together, and plans to get married, from between the lines, I can see that the roommate this time is very serious, but also very cherish this relationship.

Eight tips for relationship newbies: to help you have a better relationship experience

　　The fate that you missed because you were young, because you didn’t understand, because you let go so easily, this time, hold on to it! So, when we envision love and face it for the first time, how can we run the relationship better?

　　First, never listen to other people’s “advice”.

　　Love is a very selfish thing, don’t two people have conflicts, tell your family, your friends, your girlfriends, you want to ask for some relationship advice, at the same age, your peers will not know much more than you. When two people have a third party voice in the matter, maybe the nature of the matter has changed.

　　Originally, your boyfriend might have just forgotten to send you flowers and prepared other gifts. When you tell your friends about it and ask them what they think, they will say: what kind of relationship does not send flowers, what kind of boy does not know to send flowers, the girl should be spoiled, the boy should take the initiative.

　　But think about it, isn’t this a moral abduction? Maybe your boyfriend is also in love for the first time, maybe he is also very nervous, obviously a small thing, may be because of the world’s eyes and moral abduction and lead to your breakup.

　　When you need help, you can seek help from others, but don’t say everything, don’t listen to everything, or later break up you don’t know because of what.

　　Second, no one will ever spoil you forever

　　Any relationship is mutual, there is a person who is willing to spoil you love you, first of all because she loves you, and secondly because she feels your love, head to do not moral kidnap your other half, do not take his pay for you as a matter of course, not to take his love as a habit.

　　Third, your boyfriend does not read minds

　　Many couples will develop a code of love, not that they do not trust each other, but in order to further strengthen each other’s love and intentionally reduce the generation of conflicts. What do you want, why are you angry, or where you think your boyfriend is doing wrong, direct point out, do not wait for him to guess, he is not a roundworm in your belly, and no mind reading. If you think it’s not good to say directly, you can through the method of love code, will write out their own ideas, you do not say, he will never understand.

　　Four, have their own bottom line

　　There is no bottom line, and you will not be able to get the respect of others if you keep accommodating others for a long time. Your other half will take your payment and love for granted, as you should and must do. You have to be clear, even if you are in love, you are still an independent individual, so, no matter what, stick to their own bottom line, don’t be a good old boy in love, and finally you will find that nothing to get.

　　Five, always centered on yourself

　　Do not give up your ideals, give up your hobbies, give up your life plan for yourself for anyone. People are the most fickle, will be with you for a long time, is your thoughts, your knowledge, your ideals, your hobbies and interests, and maybe stick to it, a certain one will become your way of life.

　　Sixth, it is impossible to find the perfect person on the first time

　　Don’t think of all of a sudden to find that perfect person, and don’t impose the perfection of your heart fantasies on her, you are not perfect, the so-called perfect, is the two people because of love, the long grinding tolerance change, the tacit understanding produced.

　　Seven, do not break up because of long-distance relationship

　　Long-distance relationship, it allows you to have more time and space to think, you are not really love this person, you are not really willing to go on with this person.

　　Eight, do not go to envy other people’s feelings

　　Other people presented the beauty and happiness, just they want you to see, never their love is the original model. Between people, live together for a long time, decided to fall in love together, that is, will care, will be jealous, will be jealous, there will be contradictions, so, find a way to manage their own feelings on the good, find a way to make themselves happy on the good, do not blindly envy others.