Myths in love

In love, we often fall into the quagmire of over-affection. When we like someone too much, we become insecure and worry that we are not good enough for them and that we are afraid of losing them. This insecurity can damage our relationship and even lead to a breakup.

Understand the reasons for over-affection

Idealizing the other person: We imagine the other person as a perfect existence and ignore their shortcomings.

Low self-esteem: We feel that we are not worthy of being loved, so we try our best to please the other person.

Anxious attachment: We are afraid of being abandoned, so we rely too much on the other person and seek their approval.

Consequences of over-affection

Lack of confidence: We constantly compare ourselves to the other person and feel that we are not good enough.

Controlling behavior: We try to control the other person to ensure that they will not leave us.
Poor communication: We are afraid to express our true feelings and worry that we will disappoint the other person.
Overcoming over-affection

Accept your imperfections: Everyone has strengths and weaknesses. Acknowledge your shortcomings and improve them.
Build confidence: Focus on your strengths and cultivate a healthy sense of self-esteem.
Improve communication: Express your feelings and needs honestly, but also respect the other person’s boundaries.
Set boundaries: Don’t let yourself be controlled by the other person, and maintain your independence and self-esteem.
Breakup and reconciliation: Can a relationship break up even if you like each other?

Mutual liking does not mean a relationship will succeed. Sometimes, two people can be very much in love and still break up. Reasons may include:

Communication problems: Inability to effectively communicate feelings and needs.

Different values: Significant disagreements about life goals and values.

External pressure: Resistance from family, friends, or social factors.

Wrong timing: Two people need different things at different stages of life.

Personal growth: Over time, a person’s growth path may change, resulting in a relationship that is no longer suitable.

Saving a broken relationship

Reflection on the reasons: Analyze the reasons for the breakup and determine which problems can be solved.

Communication openness: Discuss problems that arise in the relationship honestly and find common ground.

Make changes: Be willing to change certain aspects of yourself and the relationship to improve the situation.

It takes time: Reconciliation takes time and effort, so don’t rush it.

Professional help: If it is difficult to solve the problem alone, you can consider seeking help from a professional.