On the road of love, adults are no longer as impulsive and straightforward as they were in their youth. They have learned to hide their true feelings and enjoy the pleasure of love with a posture called “sober ambiguity”.
What is sober ambiguity?
Sober ambiguity is a hazy state between friendship and love. Both parties understand that there is a special attraction between each other, but they are unwilling to break this window paper and maintain a distance.
Happy posture of adults
For adults, sober ambiguity is a unique happy posture because it provides the following преимущества:
Explore unknown possibilities: The ambiguous nature of ambiguity makes people full of reverie and can explore each other’s inner world without taking responsibility.
Enjoy the present: Adults often bear heavy pressure, and sober ambiguity can allow them to temporarily escape from reality and indulge in the psychedelic of the moment.
Adjust life: In the dull life, sober ambiguity can add a touch of excitement and fun, making people forget their troubles temporarily.
How to maintain sober ambiguity?
To maintain a sober ambiguity, both parties need to abide by some principles:
Clear boundaries: clarify the boundaries of the relationship between the two parties and avoid crossing the boundaries.
Open communication: express your feelings and needs frankly to prevent misunderstandings.
Respect the other party: respect the other party’s will, do not force or pressure the other party.
Sober ambiguity is not a game
Sober ambiguity is not a game, it requires the joint efforts and tacit understanding of both parties. If handled improperly, it can easily turn into hurt and disappointment. Here are some traps to watch out for:
Don’t indulge: Sober ambiguity is a short-lived experience, don’t indulge in it and forget about it.
Don’t cheat: Be honest and transparent, and don’t give the other party false hope.
Stop losses in time: If you find that the ambiguous relationship cannot continue, stop losses in time to avoid causing more harm.
Sober ambiguity is a happy posture for adults. It provides adults with the possibility of exploring the unknown, enjoying the present, and adjusting life. As long as you keep clear boundaries, open communication, and respect each other, you can enjoy the fun of sober ambiguity while avoiding traps.