Mastering the art of pickup

Whether you regard chatting up as an art or a kind of knowledge, you need to follow certain rules. Follow the rules, chatting up will not change, and follow the rules, chatting up will become stronger. After all, chatting up is also a part of social interaction. It is internally connected to psychology and externally connected to eloquence. Moreover, if you perform it more, you also need to analyze the probability. So if you want to truly become a social chatting up expert, you need to enhance your abilities in all aspects to achieve the state of casual chatting up and speaking at will.

Carefully design the opening remarks

Chatting up generally refers to communication with strangers or greetings with people you are not familiar with. The biggest difference between it and chatting and greeting with friends at ordinary times is that the former has no emotional foundation, the purpose is to get close, and the skill of speaking is far greater than the actual value of speaking itself; the latter has enough time to accumulate, the emotional foundation is quite solid, speaking is mainly to convey information, pay more attention to practicality, and skill is secondary.

1. Straight to the point method “Hi! Wait a minute” can make the other party stop first. This approach seems too direct, but the other party is not clear about the reason, so generally they will do it. “30 seconds” is just a hypothetical condition. In fact, if the other party is not disgusted, they will not care if your conversation exceeds the time limit.

“Fear of regret” is also a hypothetical condition, but for women, it is also a disguised compliment, so it is also a reasonable reason in the eyes of the other party.

“There are many beautiful girls in Shanghai, and you look particularly friendly” is a kind of adjustment, or transition, which will guide the other party to think about where they are friendly. If the other party is curious and asks questions actively, it can be regarded as a successful pick-up.

2. Strike while the iron is hot: “Whether the first approach was intentional or unintentional, if you feel that the other party is worth communicating with, you might as well use the first approach as a platform to create opportunities for the second approach. If the first approach is to ask for something from the other party, then the second approach can be used to praise the other party’s character or enthusiasm. Of course, don’t go too far, otherwise it will not only make the other party feel hypocritical, but also make the other party feel that you have other intentions, and thus unconsciously raise your vigilance. Of course, the second approach should be based on the other party’s reaction during the first approach to decide whether to continue. If the other party’s first reaction is very cold, don’t attack hard.

3 Local material method: “Natural” is one of the most critical elements of approaching, which will not embarrass the other party, but will also be happy to take the initiative to talk to you. Therefore, when you meet someone you want to approach, you should observe more and strive to Use the factors that are conducive to chatting up in the other person for your own benefit

Your image must be impressive

The first impression is not only very strong, but also very short in time. According to psychologists, the first impression can be formed within 45 seconds of meeting someone for the first time. The formation of this “first impression” mainly includes the other person’s gender, age, appearance, expression, posture, figure, clothing and other factors, and then people will use this to judge the other person’s inner qualities and personality characteristics. Therefore, image is the “first language” of interpersonal communication. People often form a relatively solid outline of their feelings about others in their hearts just by observing the external image before they speak.

Of course, when it comes to specific areas, such as chatting up strangers, image shaping still requires specific analysis of specific issues

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