How to go from flirting to confessing

Some people around us are very popular with the opposite sex and can chat with everyone of the opposite sex; some people are called “topic terminators”. Not only can they not chat with the opposite sex, but they can’t even chat with their friends. Are there any skills in chatting? Is chatting a skill that can be learned?

Today, I will share with you Ruan Qi’s “Devil Chatting Skills”, which is a complete guide to teach you how to chat up, how to express your love, and how to make a strange girl become your girlfriend.

The editor organizes the main content of this book into four aspects, namely:

First, how to chat up?

Second, some common skills and misunderstandings

Third, how to express your love?

Fourth, what to do if you are rejected?

First, how to chat up?

(1) The most effective chatting up skills

Indirect opening chatting up method: It is a way of chatting up by chatting about some topics that have nothing to do with “I want to get to know you”. You can ask for help or directly express your opinion on something around you.

However, many people use the wrong indirect opening. For example, when some people meet a girl they like, they will ask for directions, but they act too real. In the end, they can’t turn the topic to “I want to get to know you” and can only leave in the direction the girl points to.

The correct way is to make the request for help seem fake so that normal people can tell that you are just trying to chat up someone. If someone wants to get to know you after the opening, just chat with them. If someone responds to you politely or seriously, then stop immediately.

(2) How to avoid the embarrassment of having nothing to say

a. Choose a safe topic

b. Start with judgment – for example, today is a good day

c. Status (can be a phenomenon or behavior)

d. Feelings (emotional labels or subjective judgments)

e. Actively guide the other party to join in. (What do you think?)

f. If the other party does not join in, go back to step 3 and repeat.

When you are talking to yourself, pay attention to the other person’s attitude. If she continues to be less than friendly (not responding to the topic, no expression, looking down at her phone, etc.), then end the topic immediately.

(3) If a girl doesn’t like you, should you still pursue her?

When a girl tells you, “She doesn’t like you,” it actually only represents her emotional state at the moment, not a definite fact, so don’t take it seriously.