How to Increase Your Pickup Success Rate to 84.6%

In Devil’s Dating Science, we call generalized language patterns up-stacking and specific language patterns down-cutting. Up-stacking is like raising a shield in a conversation, pulling away the distance between you and the other person, while down-cutting conveys a friendlier and more trusting attitude.

　　It should be emphasized that up-stacking is not necessarily due to unwillingness to communicate. For example, when a geek faces his goddess, although he wants to talk more, due to excessive nervousness, the words that come out of his mouth are often up-stacked, which results in a cold and hard communication. Therefore, it is more accurate to say that the reason for piling up should be the insecurity inside.

　　Example

　　Man: What do you like to do after work?

　　Woman: I’ve been learning yoga lately.

　　M: Oh, yoga is good. (Evaluating and summarizing the upheaval)

　　M: Do you want to have dinner together today?

　　Woman: I have to work overtime.

　　M: Oh, let’s meet again some other time. (Problem-solving upheaval)

　　On the contrary, people in the high sense of security when the expression is often down cut. For example, some experienced girls, even in the face of their own dislike of men, they can be calm and easy to cope with, if you carefully analyze their language patterns, you will find that the key moment they speak will be with the lower cut.

　　Let’s look at the difference between wanting to chat and not wanting to chat.

　　Conversation 1

　　Man: How do you plan to spend your vacation?

　　Woman: Resting at home.

　　M: We should go out on such a nice day. My friends and I are discussing going on a picnic, and I heard that XXX is quite nice.

　　Woman: Have a nice weekend.

　　Conversation 2

　　M: Finally off work, what are you doing?

　　Woman: I just came home from the hospital with a cold.

　　M: Recently it is the high incidence of influenza, you have to be more careful, a lot of colleagues in our office have been infected, and today the company also sent us masks.

　　Woman: It’s okay, thanks for your concern.

　　The end of the above dialog, “have a nice weekend” and “thank you for your concern” is often encountered when chasing girls do not go well with the answer, a little bit of emotional intelligence can be appreciated, once the girl said this, as if the owner wants to “serve tea to send guests” as well. Once a girl says something like this, it’s as if the host wants to “serve tea and send off the guests”, and that’s the end of today’s meeting.

　　Conversation 3

　　Man: What are you going to do for the weekend?

　　Woman: Rest at home.

　　M: We should go out on such a nice day. My friends and I are discussing going on a picnic, and I heard that XXX is quite nice.

　　Woman: I’m so envious (undercut feeling), but unfortunately I still have to clean up the house (undercut reason), have a nice weekend.

　　Women’s thinking suitable for the natural state of mind has the following language patterns: undercutting, specific details, expressing feelings, describing problems, focusing on the past, comparing with the immediate future, listing phenomena, discussing things as they are, being open to affirmation, forgetting about the purpose, living in the present, and taking the self as the standard.